Originally Posted by
ryanb741
He goes to a specialist school, only for children with additional needs. However without going into too many details here, he is too 'hardcore' for them so doesn't participate in all activities, his behaviour at home is overwhelming, distressing, and needing a huge amount of time and focus, he also needs specialist support (you can't just get a normal childminder), he also has complex medical needs.
He can not be taken out to theme parks, to see friends, even a shopping mall, it would be too overwhelming. The only place he can go is to watch planes land and take off at Heathrow, but only if specific planes land or take off (checked beforehand on flightradar).
The last time I saw a friend was before the pandemic. Simply can't leave him alone for a period of time even with a carer. The carers are just there in school holiday time to stop him rushing into my room when I'm on a MS Teams call and scream, swear, piss, vomit, whatever when I'm with clients or colleagues online.
I have to sleep in the same bed as him every night, he simply will freak out alone. Every night he will piss himself as well.
At the same time my wife locks herself away in a separate room, else he will attack her either emotionally or physically. Our hope is that when he is 16 (he is 9 now) he goes into an assisted living facility.
My mum does have him at times and can give him undivided 1 on 1 attention and that works well, as long as he is the sole focus of attention.