When I went through the same thing 3/4 months ago I did a lot of internet searching and ended up with a Canon HF100.
Was slightly disappointed when it arrived, smaller than a can of Coke...
It is absolutely brilliant. Even SWMBO can use it, and the quality is outstanding.
These might help:
http://www.camcorderinfo.co.uk/d/Review ... c=All.htm#
http://reviews.cnet.com/digital-camcord ... mncol;psum
http://www.camcorderinfo.co.uk/content/ ... Format.htm
And if you go for a Canon, get it from him as a refurbished. Look around in history and for a few days, and set your price. Then snipe and you'll get a great deal